But, like, what actually is on this site?

Specifically this is a collection of blog posts that I started writing in 2009. The very first had to do with the production of the movie documentary Science, Sex, and the Ladies. Then more and more I started writing about topics related to the subject of the movie - female orgasm. I now have these posts categorized so you can find the important stuff easily (I hope).

Main things you will find:

Essential posts laying out my Orgasm Equality arguments: These are posts I created through the years that very specifically lay out activist arguments I desperately want to become anything close to common knowledge. Unfortunately, things haven’t progressed much in the 20 years I’ve been researching and/or writing about female orgasm. Anyway, you will find writings about things like: how there’s never been a physical observation of an orgasm caused by penetration alone in all of scientific literature; what a sexual culture might look like that treated the understanding of the male orgasm the way the female orgasm is treated; how there’s always some inner lady part that is being held up with desperately thin evidence as THE THING that causes penetrative orgasms (an ‘orgasm’ that currently doesn’t even have physical evidence of its existence at all) until there’s some new hype that everyone focuses on with even thinner evidence (it used to be the vaginal canal itself, then the G-spot took the spotlight, and currently the new patsy is the inner parts of the clit. Who knows what the next one will be!). Anyway, these kinds of posts include the meat and potatoes of my Orgasm Equality activism. You’ll find many of the same themes presented in the movie, but more in depth and up to date. Check them out and write me with anything you want to say about it. I’m all ears for the good, bad, and ugly.

SSL Movie and TV reviews (also a smaller number of magazine and fiction book): These are specific critiques of the depiction or discussion of female orgasm, the clit, cunnilingus, or female masturbation - only.  They look at what is happening specifically, the physiological realism (ex: would she realistically be orgasming from the physical stimulation being depicted?), and how that relates to the larger cultural understanding of female sexuality and orgasm. I believe the unnerving amount of deeply unrealistic female orgasm depictions that we consume throughout our entire lives is incredibly damaging to our sexual culture and needs to be called out.. These SSL Reviews are rated on a scale from 1 to 5 vulvas.

Scientific Journal Article Summaries: These are in depth summaries of any peer reviewed journal articles relating to the female orgasm. I also often add in critiques, insights, or context of my own, but specifically note that it is my opinion and not part of the article summary. I have done this for many of the most sexpert-cited articles, but I never have as many as I’d like. These are my fave to do, but take a long time so I get to them as I can.

Lists of Movies Directed by Women (that I’ve personally seen): I started doing these themed lists of 5 movies #DirectedByWomen in 2012 when someone was pushing that hashtag. It sounded fun and I watch a lot of movies. It also got me more intentionally looking for women-directed movies. Plus, I believe that the more women we have in the creative helm of media, the better it is for depictions of lady-gasms. So, it felt relevant and I kept doing it. I like to think people might check out one of these lists when they are looking for Friday night movie suggestions.

Highlights of other people doing Lady-gasm work: There are tons of people out there with similar intentions; people wanting to help women achieve the sex lives that we deserve. There’s a hundred ways to do this, and many perspectives people come from. I believe we need all that. I also believe we need to listen and learn from and support each other. I have a fairly unique, hardline perspective related to specific physiological realities of female anatomy and orgasm, and I don’t often agree with everything a person says, but I do often agree with most of what they say and with their intentions. So, that’s worth hyping to me. I am clear about the points I disagree with, but I feel strongly that the points of agreement are, if not more, important and that we will only get to a better place if we go together.